venting was her MO, in a nice way. It always amused me to watch her on TV where she looked not only perfectly coiffed, but also appeared to have this cool and controlled way of speaking, never raising her carefully modulated voice. Off the air, however, the reserve was put aside, and she could be as loud and abrasive as she wanted.
If someone had a grievance and had nowhere else to turn, they contacted Ellenâs team, and if they were lucky enough to be one of the people that she and her staff had time to help, she inevitably got them satisfaction by holding the offenders up to public scrutiny. (It helps to shove a microphone in a scoff-lawâs face as heâs on camera and ask him questions that he canât answer like, âHow could you rent out an apartment with broken windows and rats runningaround it?â and taking prompt legal action if he failed to rectify things on his own.)
If only her own life was that simple. Ellen dated a succession of men, few of them leading to any long-term relationships. I was never sure whether she attracted dysfunctional guys or whether she was beaming out signals that said she didnât want to get involved. Then again maybe they simply assumed that as a consumer reporter, if they did anything wrong, especially to her, sheâd have the might at her fingertips to cut them off at the kneesâor worse.
The other possibility was that after spending day after day using the system to fight for the rights of the downtrodden, she had closed herself off to available men who came her way either by assuming that they had their private agendas or simply by feeling too mentally and physically exhausted from working twelve-or fourteen-hour days to even go out on a date and have a normal discussion.
I could understand that. There were days when my job totally sucked the lifeblood from me. No wonder some women on the ladder to success find themselves without husbands or even boyfriends, because a demanding career chips away at how much you have to give to someone else. There is just so much loving and nurturing in all of us, and sometimes our careers become our little children, demanding full-time attention, and requiring us to wipe noses and behinds.
Forget the image of superwoman; few of us can do it all, or at least do it all very well. And the knowledge of thatâespecially if you are a perfectionist and overachieverâalways eats away at you and makes you feel somehow compromised.
On Ellenâs birthday, I couldnât resist buying her a T-shirt from a Soho street vendor that said, Just Fuck Off.
âWhose rear did you save today?â I said when Ellen answered.
âNot my own. Never complain again when your shower isnât hot enough or when your super takes too long to turn on the air-conditioning. We sent a crew up to a rat-infested tenement in Harlem where the windows have holes in them big enough for a cat to crawl through and the water in the pipes is so rusty you canât wash dishes.â
Maybe Chris was right, reality did suck. âSo what did you do?â
âWell now, after six months, weâre forcing the landlord to do repairs and in the meantime weâre moving the family into a hotel.â
âYou did good,â I said, immediately forgetting about my gripes and feeling small for needing to vent about what was eating me.
âYes, for one family,â Ellen said, âafter months of calls and intervention by the city. But what about the others who live in those burnt-out joints and never bother to contact consumer reporters for help because theyâve given up on everybody and everything or simply donât know how to navigate the system?â
âYou save the world one person at a time,â I said, reaching for an old cliché. âIf you dwell on the extent of the job, youâll be paralyzed. But to change the subject, you sound like you could use a break, so how about joining me and Chris for